This has been sitting on my mind way too long and I just can’t take it anymore. On 19th June an independently organized TEDx event posted, and then removed, a talk from the TEDx YouTube channel that the event organizer had titled: “Why our perception of paedophilia has to change.” I don’t know about you but that video made me sick to my stomach, it was ignorant and simply stupid. I won’t even go in details about that video; it is available on Youtube at other channels since TEDx took it down. According to TED Blog, “the speaker herself requested it be removed from the internet because she had concerns about her own safety.”
So what do you all think, should we respect paedophiles? For those who don’t know, a paedophile is an adult who is sexually attracted to prepubescent children. Personally, I have no desire to respect such a human being whatsoever. How do you even respect an adult that is aroused by children? Sadly, sometimes these are the people who are supposed to protect the children, I mean close relatives. And that’s why a good number of them don’t come forward and they choose to deal with it on their own.
The image of the father/uncle/brother/relative/grandfather etc touching him/her will stick in their minds for a long period of time. Michelle Johnson did a blog post on the Long-Term Effects of Being Molested As a Child and here are some of the effects she mentioned.
Adult victims of childhood molestation exhibit a variety of negative emotional effects of their abuse. The most common symptom is depression. They may also develop low self-esteem, have difficulty trusting other people and feel isolated from others.
Being molested can result in sexual dysfunction. Some adult victims avoid sexual intimacy and may even have a phobic response to it. Other victims end up preoccupied with sex. They may become promiscuous and engage in risky behaviours that increase their odds of becoming pregnant, getting their partner pregnant or contracting a sexually transmitted disease, such as HIV.
Children who were molested may develop dysfunctional relationships as adults. They have difficulty with intimacy and may keep friends and romantic partners at a distance. Insecurity may lead them to become doormats in their relationships, focused on pleasing the other person. Sometimes child sexual abuse victims even react by becoming the abuser.
Being molested as a child can lead to a variety of self-destructive behaviours. Adult survivors are seven times more likely to abuse alcohol and drugs than individuals, who weren’t molested, according to Darlene Barriere. They may engage in self-mutilation, cutting and burning themselves. They face an increased risk of developing an eating disorder.
Dear parents, you play a very big role in your child’s life when it comes to protection and security. Please, talk to your children and make them feel free to talk to you about anything. This idea of most African parents wanting to be feared and not respected is old and tired. You need to train your child to come to you with anything. This will be one of the ways that will help us catch these disgusting human beings and not to respect them but to punish them. And get your child the help that he/she needs.
We don’t respect paedophiles over here.
“And yes, I mean it. A man who sticks his cock in an infant`s mouth belongs to Himmler`s circle of hell.”
― Andrea Dworkin